I CRY EVERYDAY.
From a place of regret.
The most random stuffs leads to serious conversations just like the one I had with “P” on this day.
They had just paid us our August salary and by the time expenses for the month was deducted and other miscellaneous, Salary tiku 4k.
This isn’t funny o, lol, so what’s my escape plan? To marry one fine single young Alhaji that uses glasses (sign that he’s intelligent) and travel the world.
I hope you understand sarcasm though.🌝😂
At the office the next day, I requested the office assistant help me get breakfast and we got into the conversation of how the salary is barely enough especially with the inflation, the challenges people earning less are facing, andddd.
She made this statement.
Look at the job I find myself doing, just look at. I was begged to go to school but I said I wanted to get married. I insisted that it was marriage I wanted”
Her eyes were getting teary, her voice shaky with regrets in it.
She added, Every single day, I weep in regret, every day.
I didn’t know what to say at that moment because I wasn’t prepared for the turn the conversation took.
I always know her to be the polite, and kind colleague who rescues me from hunger (lol).
I asked what her story was and she began.
Born and brought up in Plateau State, Jos and being the only daughter of her Dad who by all means wanted to give her a good education, she mentioned non of her siblings furthered their education but they were ready to support her dad in seeing that she did.
But No, she was insistent, Why you’d asked.
He promised her marriage! She was going to get married to the LOML of several years.
They started having issues when she refused to let him go down with her, she was hell bent of keeping her chastity.
NEWS:He got some other lady pregnant who was ready to do the do and he just had to marry her.
He was In fact still deceiving her until she found out herself and by then, it was late, too late to go back to school, she thinks it is.
I encouraged her on that day about how she could still go back to school if she wanted to and how her current situation could change.
I told her crying and still living in regret would change nothing.
I said plenty things just to make her stop living in regret and look at the bright side of it.
God has a reason for everything, I believe so much in that and whatever happens to us as been predestined however, prayer changes situations, and some other times, we ourselves are the cause of our predicaments.
My conversation with her reiterated the fact that we all at some point have little or big regrets of some things and wished we knew better.
This is her story.
She’s winging it everyday,
Still puts smiles on people faces
And I tell her, you’re worth more than what you do here.
We were all born with gifts and you should never give up on yourself.
What would you do if you found yourself in this situation?
Is going back to school something you’ll suggest?
Learning a skill?
I told her I’ll like to share with my community and she said it was totally fine.
She also told me if she gets a sponsorship, she’ll definitely go back to school because now, she has a lot of baggage that would hinder her sponsoring herself and now, siblings have their own responsibilities.
I’ll read your messages to her and hope you send send your thoughts and love.
You’ll like to mentor her, render assistance in any way or sponsor her, Ill be happy to connect you with her.
Till my next newsletter,
Yours Cruise and Truth
Always,
Nana.
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I will suggest she take up a skill first even before thinking of going back to school. Let her list the things she likes to do, then a skill she can learn can be determined from her hobbies. After this we will know the next step to take.
It’s honestly not easy
I don’t know the advice to give but if she’s really interested in going back to school she may have to take up a skill to be able to sustain herself while in school